Being a mother is stressful to say the least. It is chaotic. I am a mother of 1 (hopefully a mother of 3 someday), so I’m taking notes from friends who have big families. I often wonder how they do it all? How do they stay so calm. A friend of mine, who’s a mother of 4 with 2 of them being twins, said she isn’t always like this. It is hard work, but sometimes small things that you do on a daily basis can make a difference. It’s important to remember to schedule in relaxation time, it keeps you sane and keeps you happy. Happy mum means happy kids. So I’ve come up with 10 inexpensive ways to help a stressed and tired mum relax in the comfort of her own home!
- Wake up early and have a cup of coffee in peace: I’ve mentioned this many times in my other posts. I am not a morning person and I use to struggle with waking up early before having Madeleine. But lately, I’ve found that I am a happier person if I rise early and have that half an hour of ‘me’ time. The house is so quiet and I’m able to read the paper and have a cup of coffee without being interrupted.
- When the kids are asleep, read a book with a glass of wine: I do this especially if I’ve had a difficult day. A glass of wine is exactly what I need. I missed it so much when I was pregnant and breastfeeding! A glass of wine relaxes me. I sip it slow whilst I read my favourite book, curled up on the couch in front of a heater.
- Ask your partner to give you a massage: I am so lucky! My husband is great and understands that a day at home with the kids can be a tougher day than a day at work. He usually gives me a massage whilst we exchange stories from our day. I also give him a massage in return so that it’s not always one-sided!
- Go for a walk and catch up with a friend: Getting out of the house for a bit of fresh air can be the best thing for your mind. I found that I was quite depressed being stuck indoors all the time. So I called up another mummy friend and we would go for a walk with our little ones. It makes the time go by quickly and you’re having so much fun at the same time.
- Watch a movie: After my daughter has gone to bed, my husband and I usually curl up on the couch and watch a movie. It’s almost like a date night in for us!
- Start a journal or blog: This is one of the reasons why I started my blog! Blogging helps me relax. I like to share my experiences with other people. And I tell the story exactly like how it was. If I’m sad, I’ll mention that. If I’m angry, it’s obvious as I don’t hide anything. I find this lets me unleash my emotions and helps me relax. I’ve also met some great people through it and the blogging community is such a supportive one!
- Finish your meals: As your child grows and starts solids, it’s very easy to focus on feeding them and forget about yourself. I make it compulsory that I finish my plate, even if it is cold!
- Don’t schedule too many things in one day: Scheduling too many things into one day makes me stressed out. Be realistic and space things out so that you’re not run off your feet!
- Have a bath: When the kids are asleep, run a hot bubble bath with some relaxation music and candles. This is my absolute favourite! I remember doing this in the early days and it definitely helped me relax even though I was so sleep deprived!
- Shower daily: My mother-of-4 friend mentioned that her other friend who also has twins, was too scared to shower whilst her husband wasn’t home. So when her husband was away on a business trip, she didn’t shower for 4 days. 4 DAYS?! My friend said, yes having twins is difficult but all you have to do is place them in a playpen in the bathroom, so that you can shower whilst watching your babies. If they cry, well they cry. You need to make sure you are looking after yourself and basic hygiene cannot be ignored!
What do you do to help you relax?