SAHM stands for stay at home mum. I probably don’t need to state this but I’m getting so far behind in all the text abbreviations that I actually had to google this, even though I’m quite active on social media and follow many mother forums.
I am pleased to say that I have gotten into the groove of things, with juggling my work and life. I enjoy the hectic days of balancing my career with having a little one. I think we are doing okay. Some days though, I still feel immense guilt of going back full time. I still think that I should be spending more time with Madeleine.
When my husband and I both have a day off, we spend it as a family. We head to the zoo, we go swimming, bike riding or we would schedule in a hike. I treasure these days the most. However, on the days where it’s just myself and Madeleine I’m usually at home with her trying to get all the chores and errands done before the hectic week starts. As I sit and watch her play, I notice a few bad habits of mine that creep up which makes me wonder whether I’d qualify for a SAHM.
- You know you’re on the phone way too much when your baby picks up your phone, puts it to her ear and starts babbling. Even though she can’t talk yet, she is definitely learning quick! Also, she uses her finger to navigate my phone, just like how I unlock the home page. I was in shock! This is my one year old daughter. How is she learning so quickly?
- I let her have too much screen time. Sometimes when you just need a good half hour to do some cooking uninterrupted, you turn on the television. This works wonders when you just need your baby to sit still. Her eyes are glued to the screen whilst gazing at all the different colours. Obviously, it’s not great for kids. I feel guilty having to do this. Watching too much television prevents them from learning speech and social interaction. I definitely do not want to form an addicting habit for her either! There are so many times at home that I have placed her in front of The Wiggles so that I can finish the laundry or mop the floors.
- I let her sleep whenever she wants to and her schedule is pretty much forgotten, which means bed time is all over the place. Never wake a sleeping baby is what other mothers use to say to me. However, I’ve been caught out a few times, where Madeleine was allowed to nap whenever, which resulted in a nap at 6pm and she didn’t go to bed that night until midnight! I prefer sticking to a schedule as I know when she’ll be tired and when she’ll be awake for dinner. On my day off, I am notorious, as I find it so much harder to stick to a routine when you have to run errands. Her routine pretty much goes out the window.
- I procrastinate my chores as I think I’ll have the rest of the day to do them. So I spend a good half of the day just lounging around and playing with my daughter. This is great for bonding time, but come dinner time, I realise that I forgot to prepare any food or do the washing or make a start on cleaning the bathrooms.
Being a SAHM is so much harder than it looks. Even if we could afford it, I don’t think I’d do a great job. Before having Madeleine I use to envy all the mums who worked part time or their job was purely to be a housewife and a mum. I often thought to myself that they were lucky to have such a relaxed lifestyle. But now that I’ve had a baby, I’ve come to realise that it’s not as easy as it looks! It is definitely so much more effortless to go to work. At home, I feel like I’m always chasing chores. I am forever cooking, washing up and doing laundry! I wouldn’t survive as a SAHM and I don’t know how other mothers do it!