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We didn’t really think about how having children will affect our relationship. We were just really excited. In fact, all my relationships with everyone around me have changed. I’ve learnt to appreciate my parents more, love my sister more and fight with my hubby way more than we used to!
Having kids will rock the boat and your marriage will change. This is a known fact. Sometimes for the better, and sadly, sometimes for the worst. We are lucky that we’ve known each other for a long time (13 years), so this meant that at least we know we can put up with each other. But even then, some marriages don’t make it, and that scares me.
I must admit, at times, it is hard. We get annoyed at each other alot more than we used to. We don’t beat around the bush when it comes to fights anymore, we fight to the point, our messages are clear about what we want. I guess this isn’t too bad since we get the fight over and done with and then we discuss about how to make it work for next time.
Last week, my mother in law said the more kids you have the more you fight. Which makes me a little irritated because that’s a huge generalisation. Considering she only had 2, I’m not quite sure where this assumption came from. Maybe from the lack of time spent with each other? But doesn’t absence make the heart grow fonder? From my experience so far, we definitely have less time for ourselves, but we make the most of any time we have together and appreciate it so much more.
Our text messages are to the point. No time to beat around the bush. It’s always “Can you buy milk” not the usual “hey baby, how’s your day going? I am thinking of you”. Haha this is funny because it felt like a life time ago we ever texted like this!
Even though our relationship isn’t the same anymore, one smile from my daughter, or seeing my daughter and hubby together is all it takes for me to fall in love all over again. All my frustration and anger disappears. I fall in love all over again, but it’s a different love, a deeper more appreciative love. A “you are the father of my baby” love not a “you are my sugar daddy” love. Jokes! Happy 13 years my love! Here’s to a lifetime of laughter, more kids, more quarrels, more adventures and so much more love!