Life Is Passing By Too Quick

This post is a little off track my usual mother/baby related topic. But, today my mum was sent in for a scan because they found a tumour in her breast (note: I was granted permission to mention this on my blog). My dad was recently diagnosed with Lung Cancer, and only the worse thoughts have flooded my mind. I’m worried that I’m running out of time to spend with them and that they won’t be around to see my kids grow up.

I never really grasped the concept of how fast time flies, until I had my daughter. Watching her grow from a newborn into a toddler was the quickest 12 months of my life. I still remember giving birth to her as though it happened yesterday. We live in a world, where most people prioritise many things before family. Marriage and the age of having kids is getting later and later.

My mother gave birth to me when she was only 21. I had Madeleine at 29. We wanted to wait for a bit to have subsequent babies because we wanted to travel more but after hearing the possibility of my parents not being around forever, I’d rather have all my babies now out of fear that my parents won’t be around to watch them grow. It is a scary thought, I’ve always taken them for granted growing up.

The age of settling down is getting later. A Google search of the average age people get married and have kids is 30 in Australia, with some at 50. I guess it depends on your priorities of life: would you rather travel and have all the fun first or have a family and have more time to spend with them instead?  I guess this also depends on when you meet your life partner as well.

I guess the reason why I’m talking about this after hearing about my mother’s unfortunate news, is because she once said to me that life is complete when you see your kids grow up and meet all your grandchildren.

So when is a good age to start a family? When did you settled down and got married? When is the timing right?

18 thoughts on “Life Is Passing By Too Quick

  1. Sending you all healing thoughts. I don’t think there’s any easy answer to the right ‘age’ to do things. What is ‘right’ anyway? You make the choices you do when you make them and you flow as best you can, with whatever life flows through my lovely. Hugs for you. xXx

    1. Thank you so much Jane! You are definately correct. There is no right way right age. I’m so caught up in the chase against time that it hasn’t occurred to me! You just made me feel a whole lot better! ☺☺ thanks so much xx

      1. Ohh lovely Carol, at 57 I may be seeing life differently, but the rush, chase and constant pressure we put ourselves under – why??? We may miss the simple, joy filled moments and they are the treasures. <3 xXx

    1. Hi Sharon! Thank you for the kind wishes! That’s good to know that she’s in the clear. Such a relief! I hate the C word, it makes me feel so sad. My father is quite lucky actually, he’s also in the clear after having a lung lobe removed. Thank goodness! xx

  2. It’s very individual. it depends on personal wishes, whether you’ve actually found someone to settle down with, your career options too, other circumstances. I got married a few months before I reached 30. we wanted to have a baby straight away but it didn’t happen until now, so I’ll give birth soon just a few months before I am 34.

    1. Congratulations! Wow! It is very individual and there are so many factors contributing to it. I guess I’m more worried about the fact that my parents won’t be around to meet our kids and vice versa. But on the other hand, everything happens when it’s suppose to happen. We waited 3 years after marriage to have kids only because we wanted to travel and because of that I feel a bit guilty! And wondering when to have a second! Xx all the best!! It’s so exciting going through pregnancy, birth and becoming a mother 😊😊😊

  3. And I’m sorry to hear about your mum (and dad). My mum had a lot of serious health problems these past two years so I can definitely say that I understand what you’re going through.

    1. Thank you so much for the well wishes! Mums tumour came back as benign thank goodness but she’ll need surgery. Dad got really lucky and is in remission. It makes me sad to think about it but at least I still have them! 😊 we are incredibly lucky! Hope your mum is okay xx

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