This post is a little off track my usual mother/baby related topic. But, today my mum was sent in for a scan because they found a tumour in her breast (note: I was granted permission to mention this on my blog). My dad was recently diagnosed with Lung Cancer, and only the worse thoughts have flooded my mind. I’m worried that I’m running out of time to spend with them and that they won’t be around to see my kids grow up.
I never really grasped the concept of how fast time flies, until I had my daughter. Watching her grow from a newborn into a toddler was the quickest 12 months of my life. I still remember giving birth to her as though it happened yesterday. We live in a world, where most people prioritise many things before family. Marriage and the age of having kids is getting later and later.
My mother gave birth to me when she was only 21. I had Madeleine at 29. We wanted to wait for a bit to have subsequent babies because we wanted to travel more but after hearing the possibility of my parents not being around forever, I’d rather have all my babies now out of fear that my parents won’t be around to watch them grow. It is a scary thought, I’ve always taken them for granted growing up.
The age of settling down is getting later. A Google search of the average age people get married and have kids is 30 in Australia, with some at 50. I guess it depends on your priorities of life: would you rather travel and have all the fun first or have a family and have more time to spend with them instead? I guess this also depends on when you meet your life partner as well.
I guess the reason why I’m talking about this after hearing about my mother’s unfortunate news, is because she once said to me that life is complete when you see your kids grow up and meet all your grandchildren.
So when is a good age to start a family? When did you settled down and got married? When is the timing right?